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What do we say to our teenagers in light of the most recent school shooting?

Greg Stier
Greg Stier

As a youth leader or parent it can be difficult to know how to help our teenagers process through something as tragic as a school shooting. But when tramautic events happen, like what happened at Umpqua Community College in Oregon last week, it provides an opportunity to speak into their lives in a deep and meaningful way.

On April 20th, 1999 I was a pastor in the Denver area when the Columbine High School massacre took place. The news hit me hard because, not only did I know a lot of the students who attended Columbine at the time, but my wife was (and continues to be) a public school teacher in the same school district.

I’ll never forget heading down to Clement Park, right next to Columbine High School, to reach out to the teenagers and parents who had gathered there to pray and to mourn. Amidst the massive amount of reporters, my fellow pastor and I had the privilege of speaking into the lives of terrified and traumatized teenagers.

Hearing their stories and watching their tears impacted me to the point that I eventually resigned from the church to lead Dare 2 Share, a ministry dedicated to reaching teenagers with the hope of Jesus Christ.

In the last 16 1/2 years since the Columbine shooting I have connected with students, parents, teachers, youth pastors and school administrators who have been impacted by school shootings in one way or another. Of course, empathetic listening is a huge part of ministering to them. But, over the years, I have also discovered a few ways of encouraging them to respond to the sad and scary reality of school schootings  (including my own son who had a shooting take place on his school campus a few years back.) 

1.  Cry for those who cry.

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” Romans 12:15

It’s a good thing to shed tears over those who have lost their lives or been hurt in an attack. Our hearts should break for those who have been broken. They should also break for those countless others who are having a hard time processing through these tough issues.

Many teenagers live in fear today, fear of failure, fear of rejection and many live in fear of this brand of violence erupting in their schools. It’s good for teenagers to learn how to grieve for those who grieve, like the people of Roseburg, Oregon are grieving right now for the loss of so many of their own.

One of the best ways we can help them hurt for those who hurt is by spending time in prayer as a youth group for the victims and the victims’ families. Maybe this week in youth group you can lead them in a time of prayer for the students at Umpqua Community College.

2.  Refuse to live in fear.

As believers in Jesus our teenagers do not need to live in fear of death. Hebrews 2:14,15 reminds us that Jesus shares in our “…humanity so that by his death he might break the power of him who holds the power of death—that is, the devil—and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death.”

For us, as believers in Jesus, death is not a tragedy as much as it is a transition into the presence of God. As painful as it is for those of us who are left behind, those who die as believers in Jesus are experiencing the unspeakable joy of a real heaven. 

This is why it is so vital to make sure your teenagers understand the Gospel message and have put their faith in Jesus. We can’t prevent school shootings but we can make sure that our teenagers are ready to die if that day comes.

3.  Take your worries to God in prayer.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God,which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 4:6,7

We live in a country where violence is all too common. Many teenagers live under the strong and steady weight of impending violence. I wonder how many times a day teenagers look at a closed classroom door asking themselves “what if?” 

But we can help our teenagers learn how to transform this nervousness into an excuse to turn to God in prayer. We can teach them to bring their worries to God until they experience the his peace which transcends all understanding. This peace does not remove the threat but allows teenagers to face any threat with a deep and steady hope in their hearts.

4.  Reach out to the bad, broken and bullied.

Often times the shooters in these kinds of tragedies are those who have been bullied, ignored or marginalized in some way. When they finally snap they retaliate with hate and deadly violence, leaving victim after victim in the wake of their unstoppable rage.

We can help our teenagers become change agents by equipping them to reach out to their peers with the good news of Jesus. They can actively look for those at their schools who seem to be hurting, hated or hate-filled and begin to pray, pursue and persuade. They can pray with passion for their souls to be saved. They can pursue them with love and begin to build relational bridges. They can gently persuade them with the good news of Jesus Christ.

By the way Dare 2 Share has developed a free app that will help your teenagers know how to reach out to their peers with the good news. It’s simply called Dare 2 Share and can be found on the iTunes or GooglePlay stores. Have your teeangers download it to their smart phones and go through the short training videos. It will help prepare them to reach out to their peers with the message of hope.

 5.  Be ready to act when the time comes.

Jesus said we should be “As shrewd as serpents and as gentle as doves.” We can apply this truth to dealing with violent situations as well.

Challenge your teenagers to take immediate and shrewd action. That action may be to run, lock a door, jump out a window, hide in a closet or charge a gunman. It all depends on the situation. But the last thing they should do is nothing. Law enforcement officials have seen this proven true in countless situations.

I pray this blog helps you help your teenagers process through the recent school shooting and gives you some practical truths you can encourage and challenge them with this week.


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